So long school! Today was the last one in formal edcuation.

Today has been a mixture of different feelings, having sent my lovely children into school for the last day of the academic term, feelings of worry started to take hold. Am I doing the right thing? and is this going to work? Especially as my son can be a little stubborn and this could prove to be a problem, we have also been butting heads with my lovely daughter who is trying to be home schooled as well.

The thought of HS for her I think right now would be a disaster, she is such a brilliant girl and school is beneficial for her, she is doing well and has a selection of good friends, even if one of the boys ‘does her head in’.

The last few weeks has been extremely difficult, having spent time forcing him to go in, he received his school report which was less than impressive, and after requesting his academic levels we had to jump through hoops to get the information including an obstructive head, and hours of chasing teachers, one of which would not put them in writing!! Not sure what the fear was of handing them over especially for missy as she is achieving really well.

My little man however has also done a class assembly which whilst watching him and the rest of his class present the work they had built up over the last year, each child had a big beaming smile and a visible sense of achievement. My lovely boy did not smile once, the happy smiley boy that had started the year had disappeared in place was a withdrawn child who didn’t want to show his work or participate. Feelings that after talking to his class teacher he supported, it was admitted that Fred had never found his place in this class of 38 children and it was accepted that he was unhappy in the school and one of the concerns is that the school seemed to be totally unwilling to actually do anything to assist the problem, the drop in levels from good marks to below average in the space of a year also was not an indicator that my son is an unhappy little boy and something needed to be done.

So tomorrow starts the series of deschooling we shall see what that brings with it. Whilst work has been set out for Missy to do homework during the summer holidays so I have a totally unimpressed girly.

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Reasons I will not miss the school run….. Spiteful children

Having had a few days off wondering if my decision was the right one today has helped to establish it will be a better idea. Stood on the playground tonight listening to the children play whilst awaiting the exit of my lovely daughter I had the pleasure of listening to little Emma telling her class mate that she ‘really didn’t know why Sally wore summer dresses with a figure like hers’. gob smacked is not the word to hear such a vile comment come from a child’s mouth towards a friend it was awful thing to hear, Sally was not fat, she was the average size for an eight year old child. However later I approached the mother about an unrelated incident and discovered exactly where her child developed her venomous temperament. On this thought it reminds me exactly why the children in this class are the way they are, growing up with attitudes like that explains why they feel that it is acceptable to treat others as poorly as they do.

So as time progresses the idea further gains reinforcement, the pleasure I shall gain come September and I remove some of these said parents from facebook will allow me to remove these spiteful children who enjoy making others feel worse to make themselves feel better away from my son, not allowing them to continue destroying my child’s self esteem with nasty vindictive comments, criticizing him for not being tall enough, or fast enough or for having brown not blonde hair. Each child is different and these differences should be embraced not given a label and the child forced to be the same as the rest of the batch of class mates. My respect goes out to those children who don’t choose to be clones and try to set themselves apart with different hair, or bags or fashion sense. With this in mind I have decided to share this you tube clip that is doing the rounds if it can build just one girls self esteem then this video has done its job 🙂

http://www.ijreview.com/2014/06/152303-teens-girls-asked-simple-question-one-group-hits-park-like-girl/

 

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Meeting other HE Mums

Wow what an experience, one blog I read discussed that all parents that home school couldn’t all be weird! and she was right. We took the plunge and met with four wonderful parents who home schooled their children to get an idea of what the journey of HE was like and how it would impact my family and their lives.

So as a family we took the children out of school early today and they came with us to find out what HE was all about. The children were all friendly and well-adjusted (to be honest exactly what I would of expected) so myth #1 children who are home schooled are socially awkward, blown completely out the water (never believed it myself). My son for the first time in his life went off and played with children he didn’t know, this is not normal behaviour for him. My little superstar also know as DD, enjoyed it so much she’s now trying to convince me to remove her from school, think I need time to work with that idea, as want to sort one out first.

They have managed to settle any fears I have had especially regarding DS doing the work and what structure it should take.

Also spoke to some one from our local council, absolutely brilliant person who gave me the ins and outs, if there was any legal implications, how I needed to go about de-registering DS from school, and when the best time to do it would be.

Shall be waiting to see if the ex comes back and discusses what has gone on today…..

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Why am I setting up this Blog and who am I!!

I am setting up this blog to chart the highs and lows of researching and starting to home education my son of 8 years. I am a Mum to 2 children. Besides my son I have also been blessed with my daughter who is 10 years of age. I have a wonderful husband who is still a little wary of the situation and the children’s father who I am still friends with who also shares my husbands uncertainty of the situation. So why are we looking at HE? My DS has had 2 years of unsettled education, experiencing issues with two boys who have bullied him, an extremely unhelpful head who after one contact was made decided that DS was lying and that was it, end off, a physical assault resulting in a head injury (dealt with poorly), and absent teachers who are either off due to stress? or due to other reasons. This has all resulted in him dropping academically and a teacher who says he is working at or just above national average (but can’t be taught the times tables as not ready for it). The issues continue however the decision came when my little boy turned round and told me he didn’t want to go to school as he was scared of getting hurt! No child should fear going into a classroom, they should have the ability to feel comfortable talking to their teachers, not fear them and this was just not happening at his school. After a period of looking round different schools, some were good with no spaces available, some were poor, some were outside of our area however nothing was suitable or to our standards. This is when HE started to become a conceivable idea. So how did the family react when we started discussing the idea? would love to say it was all roses, however most family members were happy to trust my judgement, one particular member of the family has become extremely upset at the idea, she has gone into a complete melt down, and this has resulted in the argument of what makes me think I am able to HE, is what I am going to do legal after all it is a legal requirement to go to school (myth by the way). Pointing out The Education Act requires that children are educated not that they attend a school to receive it. All though we have arrived at issues none agreement from the extended family, my support is given to my son, what is best for him is what is important to us. So later today we shall investigate HE a little further by going to a meeting held by some parents who already have taken this path, and maybe things shall be clearer then……

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